"The power women have comes from the man. She can say no all she wants and he can still bonk her on the head and take what he wants.
It is cornerstone of civilized human behavior for the man to give the woman the power to say no. It isn't intrinsically hers."
You are wrong, and on several levels. Let's start with the biological level, OK?
Throughout the animal kingdom, it is the female which decides what mate to accept. Males perform all sorts of dances, sport all sorts of plumage, etc., in order to get a female to accept them as mates. We do the same as humans. We court our females, offering them gifts, as many birds do. We dress well (at least some of us do), groom our plumage, and strut about, as do many animals, in hopes that a female will notice us and accept our advances.
Yes, men can rape women. It's an abberation of nature for a male to rape a female, however. We are justifiably angered at rape, and ostracize the rapist. It goes against nature.
I'm afraid your understanding of the relationship between the male and female of the human species is skewed for some reason or another.
When you point to the legions of women raping men, you will have made a counterpoint. Until you do that, you have really understood my point in the first place.