If the society is closed and Arabic women kowtow to melieval/Islamic cultural mores, then family life is ruled by a despotic male who spouts the Koran because it's the foundation for total rule. Not to bash men per se, but that's the nuts and bolts of it. To Muslims, women are chattel, the US culture subverts their notion of what's permissible, and the mullahs or clerics rant insidious evil from the pulpit.
Everything is subordinated to a religion whose ideas lobotomized an entire region of the world, turned them into ill-educated, violence-prone fools who daydream of becoming homicidal maniacs. Enraged envy of the West and the US is entwined with an overwhelming sense of inferiority. We try to help and innocents get their heads chopped off. This won't do, and the day of reckoning is coming.
That said, let me add that a great deal of harm has been caused down through the centuries by religious fanaticism. But when western civilization is in a fight to the death, we have no choice but to defend ourselves. The fact that our weapons are light-years ahead of theirs is just too bad.