I agree she is shameful and dishonoring her son. I am just saying that a mother in grief goes through stages one of which is anger directed at someone because it is just one of the stages. So she directs it at the government and Bush.
This stage is temporary as she comes to grips with reality.
Another thing - when a mother loses a son, she is not even thinking about pride, country, honor, patriotism - unless she is in denial, etc. When you lose someone - you realize real quick what is reality - the loss - and what is superficial - honor, patriotism, etc.
Not everybody does this but a death is so profound when totally realized that all fringe views, ideals, politics, etc. become totally unimportant. This is because of the depression. After the depression resolves itself, these society standards become of value again. But when seeing what is loss, nothing else matters.
Each person grieves in their own way on their own time frame. I am just saying - out of respect for her son and his death for us, we, at the very least, can be tender to his mother.
Now, if it turns out she is using his death and it is not tied to her grief, then I too would disrespect her.
But, I am not about to attack the mother of a soldier dying on the battlefield for our country.