Since we are doing True Confessions here, Darksheare and I are in a similar situation.
Mine's not as bad as his, though.
Darks, we'll hold an on-line "Pajama Party" for you when you get yourself loose!
It's pretty much indicative of my sum total experience.
Whatever comes, happens and I'll update as it goes.
Now in jesting, with any luck I'll be abducticated by the aliens from 'My Stepmother is an alien' and wake up in some demented place!
Hugs to you both - and may you BOTH find the perfect someone.