Wise men were referred to as "Magi", Magi is the term for Zoroastrian Priest.
I have Jewish family members, your analysis is beyond ridiculous.
Your family members are not looking for a Messiah? Then they are Jews like Larry King is a Jew. Reformed Jews are like the Unitarians are to Protestants. If there is no Messiah, then what is the point?
You are correct.