... Russians have different cultural expectations of how people act in that kind of situation than we do.
... If you can't read the emotions of the Ruskies DON'T confuse them with your own.
I based my comments about Putin on a large number of photographs I had seen posted in threads here included images of many survivors, family members, soldiers, medical personnel, local authorities, and Putin. Putin stood out among all these people as having an utterly impassive expression while visiting the survivors in hospital, so I don't think I am merely being culturally insensitive.
We viewed the same pictures but saw different things.
Where you saw "impassive" I saw "stone mask of rage."
I have several Russian friends that noted that they had never seen Putin's eyes so full of anger.