I've been married for twenty one years, and practiced that nonsense, until I realized that I got "sardines and couch pillows" for almost any offense, almost as a matter of course.
Giving in for so many years gave her absolute power, and earned me contempt. Learn to cook. If she doesn't want you in her bed, show her the couch. Earn some respect, like she has.
I don't take any crap from any woman......or man.