The way I see it, homosexuals are all about emotion. Instead of seeing us (their opponents) as rational, they can only imagine us in emotional terms. Since love is not the emotion that we have for them, hate or fear will have to do in their worldview.
Also, by imagining that we 'fear' them, it may give them a sense that they are somehow superior. They can say to themselves, "Hey, we're feared. Man, we rock!"
But we know better. For us, it has nothing to do with feelings. For us, it's all about what's right versus what's ridiculous.
The way I see it is, They are dishonest and manipulative, The term "homophobe" is a rhetorical weapon and they utilize this absurd label to villanize all opposers of their perverse way of life, IMO they are exploiting a tried and true psychological warfare tactic, Be advised they will indoctrinate children to believe that being a "homophobe" is akin to racial prejudice and bigotry, The truth of the matter is moral discrimination is justifiable, otherwise it would be a crime to come to a moral judgment, and there would cease to be any difference between right and wrong.