I'll agree with you. We have 3 kids, and one of them is special needs.
We've done many "date" nights at home. On one of our anniversaries, I cleaned up our bedroom; set up our card table with table cloth, dishes, and candles; and my husband picked up a fancy Italian dinner to go.
The kids were told to stay in their rooms, and they did after they peeked into our room. My husband and I turned on music and romatically danced.
It was a lot of fun, and we didn't infringe on anyone.
We just moved to a new larger home. This one is much better for romantic evenings. We have jacuzzi outside attached to the swimming pool, and we have a very large jacuzzi bathtub in the master bathroom. Since we are now broke, we have been enjoying the benefits of the new home.
LOL--us too. We have the jacuzzi too and it has made for some relaxing and romantic nights when the kids are asleep.