To answer your question, "If it doesn't look human to you is abortion and stem cell research okay as long as you get it done before it looks somewhat human?", I would say no, I personally draw the line before that. I'm a bit confused by your question, though, since you seem to suggest that your answer is that it is not OK, but you wrote in your original post that "Once the fetus attains all human being characteristics it qualifies as a human being to me."
Okay what I meant was that a fetus that is viable has all the traits that make it qualify. In my opinion viability is the correct line. Viability is the ability to live outside the womb. Technology that attempts to cheat to act as an artifical womb doesn't change the fact that it isn't viable. Either way 90 something percent of all abortions and stem cell research use embryos. There is no way they come close to qualifying.