Again, it depends on when the question was asked. There was a sharp spike (in MA) against gay marriage right after the SJC ruling, but it's subsided.
I'm sorry, I'm having trouble finding polls right now, since Google News search is clogged with stories about today's vote, but I didn't make up numbers. I fully acknowledge that in many states, such as Ohio and Missouri, the numbers have been running somewhat stronger against gay marriage, as the Legislatures in both states have taken up the agenda.
I've never said that the entire country was ready for gay marriage, just that it will find greater acceptance in some places than in others.
Just heard of a poll where 70% stated that gay marriage should not be a campaign issue this Fall, and only 9% said that it should be a main issue of the Fall campaigns.
I think the problem here is that you've got the minority who really passionately care about the FMA seeing the polls where you get 50%+ opposed to gay marriage, and mistakenly assume that 50%+ is just like them, since they have a skewed notion of the views of the country as a whole, since everyone in their church, family, etc. happens to feel the same way as they do.