This is an interesting and valid point, I believe. Young people will be more positive, and make more responsible decisions, if they believe that they have the ability to shape their futures.
My older children are all planning toward careers that feature self-employment or owning their own businesses. I think it's important for parents to form an attitude of "I can!" in their children ... or as General Jackson put it, "You may be whatever you resolve to be." When any of our children proposes a goal or dream, we make a point of saying, "Great! And here are some steps YOU can take toward making it happen!"
Could you please write a book on raising children?
Until then, you can just send me hints like this through FReepmail!!!!
Your children have a big advantage over many children these days - they have great parents!