Reverting to my usual mean-spirited self...that thought occurred to me as well...would they have had two babies if the first had been a boy? and I wonder about the first daughter, who lost her "big brother" but has new sib's young enough to be her own children...
I do have to say, you, Howlin, are obviously a very courageous and sane person who deserves enormous credit for coping with your own loss...there are so many "stories" that are never told, but blessings on you and all the other quietly good and persevering folks...may you find happiness in day-to-day life, and know that "your reward in Heaven will be great".
I wondered that very same thing; if the girl had been a boy, would they have stopped there?
What if he/she didn't bring them joy?
Believe me, all kinds of things go through your mind; but this stuff is beyond weirdo!
I thank you for your kind words.
You'd be surprised how many people here on FR have lost a child -- and they all helped me immensely! Not to mention everybody else......you can't believe the support I STILL get to this day. You all are sort of like group therapy, only it's open 24/7!
I'm not courageous at all; you just have two choices: get in the bed and never get up, or live your life; luckily for me, when my sister died in 1996, my son had reamed me out about letting her death thrown me into a deep depression, so I knew exactly what he wanted me to do!
I have to say one more thing: in all this time, it never occurred to me that there would be no more joy in my life. Ever. My problem was how to deal with that joy without feeling guilty about it.
I didn't have another child, but I have to wonder what this girl thinks when she reads this stuff her parents say. It must be devastating.