No, they really can't.
To a point, sure... but ultimately, God made the Sexes different, and that is -- unavoidably -- how we are. (If God didn't want us to be different, He would have made us all Hermaphrodites).
At 12 to 14 Weeks of age, the brain of the Male Fetus undergoes a testosterone-based Chemical Wash which permanently reduces the inter-connections between the Cognitive and Intuitive Centers of the Male Brain. The Female Brain undergoes an estrogen-based Chemical Wash which does not so impair the inter-connections between the Cognitive and Intuitive Centers of the Female Brain.
As a result -- the powers of pure Rationality in the Male will, at the outer end of the Bell Curve, tend to excel at the highest levels in markedly greater numbers than the comparable number of Females (on the other hand, the Male will also produce more Idiots at the lower end of the Bell Curve). Meanwhile, the Female will naturally be superior in matters of Socialization, Empathy, and Multi-Tasking, and will develop to Maturity sooner than the Male in those areas.
It's a simple matter of unalterable brain chemistry. We're just different... God made us so.
Not sure if most of the distance is societal training or inherent in the genetic makeup. Truth is... women could learn to be more rational and men could learn to be more verbal. In a marriage, this would exemplify love in both directions.
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No, they really can't.
I don't know if you're a christian or not but the reading of the Bible has initiated behaviorial changes throughout the ages; men were not oly learning facts all this time, but also behavior. And, as you know, it is not graphic in nature. Unless men are reading the childrens' illustrated version.
I find it preposterous that you actually believe men cannot learn to be more verbal. I know of a marriage that was revolutionized when the man began saying "I love you" and began to give more compliments to his wife.
I know countless women who began to use more rational language and kept themselves from resorting to anger too quickly and experienced real change in their marriages as well.
Men can learn to verbalize; women can learn rationality.
OT slightly, I have seen marriages where the man is more emotional and the woman more calm and rational, just to prove that generalizations are not true in each case.