Does one suppose that Mr. Clinton has some anti-social personality traits?
"Does one suppose that Mr. Clinton has some anti-social personality traits?"
Ding! Ding! Ding! We have a winner!
Funny you should ask that.....
From another thread:
To: MamaLucci
Clingon is a Malignant Narcissistic http://groups.msn.com/NARCISSISTICPERSONALITYDISORDER/20traitsofmalignantnarcissism.msnw
20 TRAITS OF MALIGNANT NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER HOW MANY DOES CLINGON HAVE?
1. A PATHOLOGICAL LIAR who is skilfed in deception and can be convincing. He makes up new lies when questioned. His memory is self serving. He is abusive, evasive and will deny past statements. He will bluff and threaten. Defense Strategy: Find a way to verify what he says. Don't tip your hand. Don't reveal things he will use against you. Don't believe a word he says. Head for the door when things don't add up. Don't ask questions as this just invites more lies.
2. THE CONTRACT BREAKER will agree to anything then turn around and do the opposite. Legal, custody agreements and normal social/personal protocol mean nothing to him. This con artist will accuse you of being the contract breaker. Enjoys orchestrating police/legal action and playing the role of the 'poor me' victim. Defense Strategy: Expect him to disregard the agreement. Have an effective Plan B in place. Protect yourself financially and emotionally.
3. THE ACADEMIC OR CORPORTATE HIGH ROLLER Often occupationally-successful he will rise to the top. His family mere props in his success facade. They are disposable objects at his whim. Often eloquent and intelligent in his field. He may fake his abilities and credentials. Very charismatic. He must be in absolute control. He relies on his intellectual manipulative ability. He will support, exploit or target others to further his ever-changing objective. He ruthlessly abuses the power of his position. His bad judgement has adverse affects on society. He places others in problem or failure situations. He can be a vindictive bully in the office. He has no social conscience, often suspicious and paranoid. Others may support him to further their own objective but this wheeler-dealer leaves them holding the bag. Defense Strategy: Keep your references and resume up to date. Don't get involved in anything illegal. Document thoroughly to protect yourself. Thwarting them may backlash with a cascade of retaliation. Educate yourself about corporate bullies.
4. THE SEXUAL NARCISSIST is often hypersexual (male or female). Pornography, masturbation, incest are reported by his targets. Anything, anyone, young, old, male/female, are there for his gratification. This predator takes what is available. Can have a preference for 'sado-maso' sexuality. Often easily bored, he demands increasingly deviant stimulation. However, another behaviour exists, the one who withholds sex or emotional support. Defense Strategy: Expect this type to try to degrade you. Get away from him. Expect him to tell lies about your sexuality to evade exposure of his own.
5. THE BLAME-GAME NARCISSIST never accepts responsibility. He blames ohers and he leaves them to clean up the mess he makes. A master at projection. Defense Strategy: Learn about projection. Don't take the bait when he blames you. He made the mess, let him clean it up.
6. THE VIOLENT NARCISSIST Wife-Beater, Murderer, Serial Killer, Stalker, Terrorist. Has a 'chip-on-his-shoulder' attitude. He lashes out and destroys or uses others as scapegoats for his aggression or revenge. He has poor impulse control. Fearless and guiltless, he shows bad judgement. He anticipates betrayal, humiliation or punishment, imagines rejection and will reject first to 'get it over with'. He will harass and push even more now to get your reaction. He will try to make you look out of control. Can become dangerous and unpredictable. He has no remorse or regard for the rights of others. Defense Strategy: Don't antagonize or tip your hand you're leaving. Ask for help from the police and shelters.
7. THE CONTROLLER/MANIPULATOR pits people against each other. Keeps his allies and targets separated. He is verbally skilful at twisting our words and actions. He is charismatic and usually gets his way. Often undermines our support network and discourages us from seeing our family and friends. Money is often his objective. Other people's money is even better. He is ruthless, devious and cruel. This control-freak bully encourages dependence on him. Often appears pitiful, confused and in need of help. We rush in to help him with our finances, assets, and talents. We may be used as his proxy interacting with others on his behalf as he sets us up to take the fall or enjoys the performance he is directing. Our "Knight in Shining Armor" is now our nightmare. Defense Strategy: Know the 'nature of the beast'. Facing his failure and consequences will be his best lesson. Be suspicious of his motives, and avoid involvement. Don't bail him out.
8. THE SUBSTANCE ABUSER Alcohol, drugs, cannabis, you name it, this N does it. We see his over-indulgence in food or exercise and his need for instant gratification. Defense Strategy: Don't sink to his level. Say No.
9. OUR "SOUL MATE" is cunning and knows who to select and who to avoid. He will come on strong, sweep us off our feet. He seems to have the same values, interests, goals, philosophies, tastes, habits. He admires our intellect, ambition, honesty and sincerity. He wants to marry us quickly. He will display integrity, and appear helpful, comforting, generous in his 'idealization' of us phase. It never lasts. Eventually Jekyll turns into Hyde. His discarded victims suffer emotional and financial devastation. We end the relationship and salvage what we can, or we are discarded quickly as he attaches to a "new perfect soul mate". He is an opportunistic parasite. Our healing is lengthy. Defense Strategy: Seek therapy. Learn about this disorder. Know the red flags of their behaviour, and "If he seems too good to be true..." Often an internet predator.
10. THE QUIET NARCISSIST is socially withdrawn, often dirty, unkempt. Odd thinking is observed.
11. THE SADIST is now the fully-unmasked malignant narcissist. We are psychologically and emotionally traumatized. His objective is often watching us dangle as he inflicts emotional, financial, physical and verbal cruelty. His enjoyment is all too obvious. His pleasure is in the taking, not the owning of other people's assets. His target: women, children, the elderly, anyone vulnerabie. Defense Strategy: Accept the Jekyll/Hyde reality. Make a "no contact' rule. Avoid him altogether. End any avenue of vulnerability. Don't allow thoughts of his past 'good guy' image to lessen the reality of his disorder.
12. THE RAGER flies off the handle for little or no provocation. Often a strong disproportionate overreaction to the situation. His child-like emotions burst forth in a tantrum. His rage is intimidating. He wants control and our compliance. In our hurt and mental confusion we struggle to make things right. Our reaction is his payoff. He seeks both good or bad attention. Even our fear, crying, yelling, screaming, name calling, hatred he enjoys. Any attention is better than none. He likes to be hated even by society. If he can get attention by his cruelty he will do so. Defense Strategy: Don't take the bait of his verbal abuse. Expect emotional hurt. Don't rage back. Violence is possible.
13. THE BRAINWASHER is very charismatic. He is able to manipulate others to obtain status, control, compliance, money, attention. Often found in religion and politics. He masterfully targets the naive, vulnerable, uneducated or mentally weak. Defense Strategy. Learn about brainwashing techniques. Listen to your gut instinct. Avoid them.
14. THE RISK-TAKING THRILL-SEEKER never learns from his past follies and bad judgment. Poor impulse control is a hallmark. Defense Strategy: Don't get involved. Use your own good judgement. Say No.
15. THE PARANOID NARCISSIST is suspicious of everything usually for no reason. Terrified of exposure and may be dangerous if threat of exposure is imminent. Suddenly ends relationships if he anticipates abandonment. Defense Strategy: Give him no reason to be suspicious of you. Expect it. Let some things slide. Protect yourself if you anticipate violence.
16. THE IMAGE MAKER will flaunt his 'toys', his children, his wife, his credentials and accomplishments. Admiration, attention, even glances from others, our envy or our fear are his goals. He is never satisfied. We see his false mask of arrogance and haughty strut as he demands center stage. He will alter his masks at will to appear pitiful, inept, solicitous, concerned. He falsely portrays the perfect father, husband, friend. Defense Strategy: Ignore his childlike behaviours. Know his payoff is getting attention, deceiving or abusing others.
17. THE EMOTIONAL VACUUM Perhaps the cruellest blow of all. We learn he has no emotions, no empathy. He has deceived us by his cunning ability to mimic human emotions. Emotionally he is small child. We are left numbed by the realization. It is incomprehensible and painful. We now remember times we saw his cold vacant eyes and when he showed odd reactions. Those closest to him are objectified and expendable. Defense Strategy: Face the reality. They can deceive trained professionals.
18. THE SAINT proclaims his high moral standing. Accuses others of being immoral. "Hang 'em high" he says about the murderer on the 6:00 news. This hypocrite lies, cheats, schemes, corrupts, abuses, deceives, controls, manipulates and torments while portraying himself of high morals. Defense Strategy: Learn the red flags of behaviour. Be suspicious of people claiming such high morals.
19. THE CALLING-CARD NARCISSIST forewarns his targets. Early in the relationship he may 'slip up' revealing his 'true self' saying "You need to protect yourself around me" or "Watch out, you never know what I'm up to." We laugh along with him and misinterpret his words. Years later, coping with the devastation left behind, his victims recall the chilling warning. Defense Strategy: Know the red flags and be suspicious of the intentions of others.
20. THE PENITENT NARCISSIST says "I've behaved horribly, I'll change, I love you, I'll go for therapy" We learn his words are verbal hooks. He knows our vulnerabilities and what buttons to push. The sincerity of his words and actions appear convincing. We question our judgement about his disorder. We can disregard "Fool me once..." We hope for change and minimize past abuse. This N will enjoy his second reign of terror even more if we allow him back in our lives. Defense Strategy: Expect this. Self-impose a "No Contact" rule. Focus on the reality of his disorder. Remember past abuse.
21 posted on 06/16/2004 8:01:53 PM CDT by buffyt (There is no limit to what a man can do - as long as he doesn't care who gets the credit. R Reagan)