I deal with a lot of undergraduates. The young men are very clear - when they get married they want a wife with a professional career. Who knows what they're going to want when they're 35 or 40. But for now most feel strongly they want their wives to have a high paying professional career. (emphasis on high paying)
I can see why they would because it seems that in marriages with two incomes not only is there more money when the marriage works out but if something goes wrong there isn't going to be the same fight in the divorce --- the judge tends to allow a man much more of his income if the wife has a good income of her own, she's also not as desperate to go after his paycheck and can survive on her own. The divorce is likely to be a bit more equal.
Well like most things, Undergraduates don't know crap about crap.... Hell with wife working. I am not opposed to it if it is needed, but last thing I want is a wife working because she "wants" to.
I want a woman who knows that marriage is an emotional partnership, not a financial one. I want her to stay home, cook, clean, take care of the house and kids.... so that they have a stable and constant adult looking out for them during the day.... and leaving me free to focuse my work energies on work... (not needing to figure out who's going to miss work to go talk to teacher this week) and when I come home, be able to unwind and enjoy my family.
I have absolutely no desire to be with a woman who thinks income is more important than family, and frankly any woman willing to put work ahead of her kids and family voluntarily is definately not a woman I want to be involved with.
Conversely if she's the bread winner, I got no problem doing the house husband thing either... I just don't buy into one minute of the gobbledy gook that Carreer is more important than kids.
Sorry Ladies, I don't care what the feminist movement tells you... you do your children no favors putting them in day care all day, or letting others raise them. Now I understand some have no choice, and that is fine, I am speaking to those who do have a choice and buy into the lie that they aren't hurting anyone.
Like the Seargant said, "When young men lie dying on the battlefield, parts of them blown off, they don't cry out for their teacher or day care worker... they call out for their Mothers." Do not shame yourselves by short selling the importance that time with your child is.
Once the children are raised, go out and do whatever, but during the time they are at home, don't... or find a part time thing that can work from the house. Don't get caught in the trap and lies.