Yes, there are friends for awhile, but a strange, surprising phenomena happens, I found, also others say so,
after a time, the friends become afraid of what to say to you in conversation, they are afraid to make you cry, essentially, so they back off for awhile.They become afraid to mention the husbands name, not sure whether you want to mention his name, most people ASSUME you don't dare mention his aname for fear of tears.....
Strange, yes, but common.
You've been there...so have I. The secret is to find something useful...helping others...that brings a degree of pleasure and keep busy doing it. In time....a long time...you can speak of the loved one w/out spontaneous tears. Than you're on your way to a Becoming.....