You put it better than I did -- thanks.
I tend to believe that a lot of what we call "sociability" and the "popular" crowd are actually attempts at either covering up strong insecurities with schmoozing or trying to climb the social ladder.
And yes those types are very put off by the nonconformists.
While I value teamwork, I think teachers and HR-types put too much emphasis on how people get along, rather than getting things done right and living a principled life. And they are too quick to be alarmed by people that don't schmooze easily.
-- Joe