I agree that Americans are penalized for having kids. It's no coincidence that many homeschool families are large, because the #1 biggest detractor - having a big mortgage payment - isn't usually the case when people buy a cheaper house in a district that is perceived as "worse."
I hear what you're saying about your daughter's loss of interest in learning. Just because a school district is perceived as "good" doesn't mean that it really is, or that a particular child will like it there. I probably should have been clearer on that point: *perception* plays a big role in this whole real estate price thing. But it makes no sense to pretend that the perceptions aren't out there, not with an investment as big as a house.
Since you are thinking of moving anyway, have you thought about moving outside of CA? Most of the country is *way* cheaper.
Have you also considered homeschooling the child who's having a bad time in school? It doesn't work for everyone, but it's a thought.
My plan is to go out farther into the Mojave Desert where it is less populated. Right now, land is reasonable. There is electricity and phone service, but you're looking at septic tanks and propane gas. I've never lived outside of CA, but I've thought about moving. I would have to go to court and request permission to move, because it would effect their father's visitation. Too much hassle, plus my second oldest is expecting another baby around Christmas.
I've had inquiries about this house, and we haven't gotten anywhere near auctioning it off. One realtor didn't care what kind of shape this place is in, he just wants his kids in this school district. I didn't bother telling him that this is probably the last school district he'd want his kids to attend. They developed an old oil field and planted 20 or so houses on it. We were overrun with possums and racoons last spring, because their habitat was destroyed.
The goal as reported in the local birdcage liner, is to get as many kids as possible in the schools...for more revenue, of course. The houses are not on their own land, and there isn't enough room for a clothesline. Prices are starting from 600k.
I plan on homeschooling my youngest. I hope things work out so that I can.