My oldest son is only six years old but I can say with all certainty this WILL NOT happen under my roof. I am, and will continue to be, Gestapo Mom. Each and every day I clean up my kids' bedrooms (with their help). Nothing escapes me, and they know it. Invasion of their privacy? When they are paying rent and living on their own, they'll have all the privacy they have earned. Until then, my house, my rules.
Amen to that, grellis. I totally agree.
The Klebold boy had *way* too much privacy to be able to hide so much of what he was doing.
I'm sure I don't know every single thing my children do or say, but there isn't much that gets by my husband and me. Besides, most of our kids share a room with a sibling, so they'd have to get it by them too. :)