"would you like to do this" and " how about we go do this" all the while forbidden from any physical contact. "
My grand-daughter is 2 1/2 and this is how she is being raised?? Her Mom lets her run the house and Mom is taking her cues from the Ophra show et al. and others that suggest that kids shouldn't be disiplined -- EVER!
Teachers can only try to cope in this kind of parent stupidity induced madness.
They're taking the easy road now by letting her go but as I always say you either pay your dues early - by consistent discipline - and enjoy the fruits of that when they're teens and taller than you, OR you PAY DEARLY later when they're surly, disrespectful young adults and you no longer have control.
I have a feeling you're not going to like your granddaughter much when she's 13.
My brother is raising a daughter just like this. She is 4 years old and already my kids simply can't stand to be around her. She literally screams at her parents when she wants something and will do so until she is satisfied. She has no discipline nor is she being taught self control. My brother and I argue over this all of the time. I have told him that by not disciplining her now he is sentencing her to a lifetime of problems. The little devilette doesn't act like this when I keep her for them though. She learned a while back that her auntie doesn't play her games.