Is the missing element....in spite of both young men's rather affluent or comfortable homelife....a void of faith?
Were either brought up with a spiritual foundation of their place in God's world.
Did the parents try to instill a sense of purpose for their lives.....did they train them with spiritual principles and basic moral standards?
U R ABSOLUTELY RIGHT.
I think it's a 100% safe bet, their parents did NOT. Certainly they did NOT successfully. But I'd wager they did not even TRY to do so.
I bet the best the parents values ever got beyond materialism and some sort of vague environmentalism and pablum distant socialist do goodism--was to try and establish a--whatever feels good, do it and whatever lights your fire have at it and whatever you choose is fine with us. Oh, a death club all in black. How quaint. Nice you belong to something, dear. Please pass the remote.
Sheesh.