[familyofman]

"But so far, no one else has been childish enough to think the reference would bother me."

I didn't think it would bother you (not intended that way at all) - just a matter of curiosity. I've been asked a few times about mine - doesn't bother me either.

The relative merits of the states is debatable, and as far as I know none changed their geographic position as a result of the Civil War. Both NJ and FL stayed right where they always were located.
Your choice of Lee is good, mine would be more along the lines of a Lawrence Chamberlain (held Little Roundtop at Gettysburg), or even a W.T. Sherman - based on strategy and leadership.

[talleyman]

Your choice of Lee is good, mine would be more along the lines of a Lawrence Chamberlain (held Little Roundtop at Gettysburg), or even a W.T. Sherman - based on strategy and leadership.

We shall be civil, then, and politely agree to disagree. (But I'd go light on the Sherman admiration in Georgia, if I were you.)