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:There is a lack of tolerance for "wierd" kids? You wouldn't know it by what you see in today's society.

Yeah. There is.

My daughter is mildy autistic. Geeky, and kind of on her own planet.

She doesn't care about "What's cool", doesn't want to chase boys, does her own sweetly weird thing and hurts no-one. She is gentle with animals and she draws... She can cook, and use tools and memorizes lyrics with one hearing.

AND if I am not on it, she gets beaten up and has always been called names and made fun of. She never gets invited to the sleep-over or the birthday party.

Why?

Because she's different. She says odd, strange things. She doesn't follow the crowd.

Breaks my heart.
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I understand, but don't lose heart. Your daughter sounds like my wife. I met her in college, first day on campus in fact. She was "weird" in that she was completely oblivious to the current dress styles for coeds, wore bobbie socks and "way out of style" dresses, but she was interesting to talk to, had many interests and was articulate and honest discussing them. I guess she found me interesting too. Neither one of us had much interest in "chasing" anyone (even each other) or spending a lot of effort in the campus "social scene".

Long story short: we've been married for 36 years, have three grown sons, and a nice place in the sticks that she designed, contracted out, and managed the relationship with the builder (I've always hated crowds, and busy roads, and been fairly inept in 'productive' work but effective in 'analytic abstract' efforts). My father-in-law told me once he never thought she would have a family, and worried if she would even be able to get along on her own. We take good care of each other (I earn enough and she spends it wisely - - e.g., her management of all the details of our home construction project - - my part being to review the financial documents and work agreements to be sure no one was sandbagging us). Maybe I'm one of these types too? Probably. Anyway, hope your daughter finds someone like herself with complementary interests so that she and he can take care of each other. In the meantime, help her to look for like-souled neighbors. We're out there. And "Non illegitimati carborundum!"

Don't mean to butt in.....I grew up in Boone, NC (60s - mid 70s) Didn't hang with many peers in Watauga High School. I had a few close friends that included jocks, 'heads', geeks, and hillbillies. Most of my buddies and girlfriends were from ASU. Never cared about what was in style then either. I still wear jeans, flannel shirts or t-shirts, and hiking boots most of the time and grumble when I have to wear a tux or suit. From your post, your wife is the definition of 'cool'. To me, being cool is not following the mainstream herd of sheeple and not giving a sh$t what others may think because I don't follow the crowd. I know what I want to do. :)