[cyborg]

One cannot be too thin skinned when you've got little ones with disabilities.

*** I agree. Also, parents should not be held responsible for their children's disabilities. People can be that way sometimes.

[blackdog]

All parents need to be responsible for their children, with or without disabilities. These days if you have a rough patch with one who has disabilities(which may really just be divergent priorities), the mainstream idea is that the school, doctor, hospital, or county social services department is to be your saviour and solution.

Those agencies and institutions are funded to be your saviour, but in reality, they are minimal assistance at best. You've gotta tackle it on your own.

Ever been grocery shopping at midnight? Most the people taking their time, buying a full order of groceries are parents of children with disabilities. It's the only time you can get enough peace and quiet to do it, that being when they are sleeping and another parent is at home.

If we had had my son when I was in my twenties, it would have destroyed me. He's a gift in my fourties.