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I suspect the birth mother of their child will not try to make a three ring circus out of the process.

I'm not advocating that birth mothers who give their kids up for adoption have to hang their heads in shame, but they shouldn't be looking for their American Idol moment out of it.

The couple that "wins" will probably have to deal with this particular young lady some years later, when she "realizes that she had been used by the news media". Hope they can convert the kid's college fund to legal fees to fight her off.

Birthmothers should never hang their heads in shame, but you see that is what society tells her to do. Once the word "adoption" is mentioned as part of her thought process, it is all over. Agencies, social workers, and society alike tell her to "do the loving thing, do the right thing for your child. Give these people a gift that they would otherwise never have..." She is crushed under the power of that influence, she is made to believe that it is the only right option, she will be "letting people down" if she doesn't go through with it, they would be "devastated" otherwise, she will never be able to give her child as much as a successful older married couple can, no other choice is right, and then.....she signs the papers.
As soon as that is done she is viewed in a totally different light. Now she is an abandoner, no longer the considerate girl making the ultimate sacrifice or honorable decision, she wears a cloak of shame. She walks among the whispers...."can you believe she could do that?" Those same people who helped make her decision are now apalled by her actions. Take the words of the adoptive father, for instance "I thought Jessica was an intelligent girl, How could she not say this beautiful baby that I brought into this world is going to stay with me."
So now it is implied that she is not intelligent because she chose adoption. How could she not take the baby home with her? Hmmmm, maybe there are other pressures here you are not recognizing, like your very presence in the situation!
The open adoption probably will not stand. The adopters probably will not uphold their end of the bargain. But then again, that happens everyday, everywhere, and that is where the birthmother learns that she is nothing, never real was anything....just an incubator.