I got married in 1998, and it was not presumed that my wife and I having sex - it would've been harshly dealt with by her family. For about 98% of the rest of society, if you go on more than 3 dates, it's presumed that you're having sex with each other. Sad. Actually, this might surprise you, but at least 1/4 if not 1/3 of all marred couples are virgins at marriage. Many ofthe rest have only shacked up with each other, which while deplorable, is a lot more understandable than the perhaps 1/3 or more who go for multiple sex partners in life. There's a large government study about American sexual habits where you can look this up.
Actually, this might surprise you, but at least 1/4 if not 1/3 of all marred couples are virgins at marriage. Many ofthe rest have only shacked up with each other, which while deplorable, is a lot more understandable than the perhaps 1/3 or more who go for multiple sex partners in life. There's a large government study about American sexual habits where you can look this up. Is that 1/3 number for people getting married in 2004 or for all married couples, whether married in 1954 or 2004? I have read that 85%-90% of brides are not virgins on their wedding day- so I question your statistics.