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Thanks for your concern. Perhaps I am just naive, but I really felt that you did express sincere regrets. It is hard to tell you the truth. It is hard because there are so many people who are not accepting of gays.

However her lifestyle is not destructive. She in fact has a wonderful life, simply wonderful. She is really in love, they have a monogamous relationship and they will have children, so there will be grandchildren.

I guess what we (gays and families of gays) do is what blacks did prior to the civil rights movement. Just ignore the hateful people, and not everyone who is not accepting of gays are hateful, and not let it affect your life. The key is to ignore the hate. Believe me there are more families in my position than you would imagine. I think the reason is because the younger generation is so much more accepting so that the younger generation of gays don't stay in the closet. Staying in the closet does more damage than being gay is IMHO.