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"I don't think gays "choose" that lifestyle. Why would they?"

I can tell you that they do.....I was one. It's a form of 'rebellion'.....or actually, it became and probably is more so after 30 years of 'brainwashing' a 'cool thing to be'. Like I said, if you make stealing or murder 'acceptable', more are likely to do it. If you make something harder to be......then there will be fewer that do it. I see you have been fed the mantra, and were/are looking for reasons/rationalizations/absolutions. That's ok. I don't blame you. I just am sorry you've become an 'enabler'. Sigh.

Perhaps I am just tooooo Heterosexual to "get" it. I can't "see" how you can change your sexual preferences as an act of rebellion. Well maybe some might do that for a time (and it is a big stretch for me to even think that) but I mean eventually you are what you are, right?

I don't think that I am an enabler. As a matter of fact I am simply a realist. When confronted with the situation and listening to my children I am a realist and just accept a spade for a spade. So it is not much of a rebellion if your parents after much internal conflict, love you anyway just the way you are, then the rebellion is pretty much over isn't it? It is far more logical to me to accept the fact that some people just genetically prefer the same sex.

I logically have to allow that perhaps a small small percentage might, might, might just do it for a while as rebellion but I think this is a small minority of gays. And those that are doing it for rebellion certainly do not "do it" for the rest of their life like that.

"I don't think gays "choose" that lifestyle. Why would they?" I can tell you that they do.....I was one. It's a form of 'rebellion'.....

You know, Chani, I had never thought about rebellion as being one of the reasons individuals get into the homosexual lifestyle. I think a lightbulb just went on for me. :o)

My SIL (dh's twin) has been a lesbian since high school. Supposedly, her best friend placed that as a condition to the continuation of their friendship, but I definitely see a large amount of rebellion in her. She is constantly needling my husband about her great academic exploits and is unnaturally competitive with him. (Come on, at 37 ACT YOUR AGE!!) She spouts off programmed lines with words like, "patriarchal domination." Dh has told me that for years she resented the very fact that HE actually came out of their mother's womb first! It's insanity.

We get along very well, but I also know that at some point in the near future she and I will have a little "come to Jesus" chat. Our daughter (almost 5) will never be taught that Aunt Becky's lifestyle is OK. We will never tell her that Aunt Becky and (put current girlfriend's name here) are just like a married couple. This won't make Aunt Becky happy, but that's not my responsibility. My daughter loves her aunt, and we will always encourage that. As she gets older and understands more, we will also make sure she joins us in prayer for her aunt.

The more I see and hear of homosexuals, the more I am convinced that the "same sex attraction disorder" diagnosis was correct. Not politically correct, but correct all the same. My SIL has lived a very sad and painful life in spite of her bragging and bravado. My heart goes out to her.