With them, you will have to develop your own relationships with them for them to open up to and help you in your efforts. That takes time and it takes effort coming to understand and respect their motivations, their commitment and their experiences. Luckily, I was blessed to come from a family who has been involved in the defense of liberty and our Republic since the Revolutionary war, right up to my own father who served in combat in WW II in the Pacific, and that helped greatly.
That sounds like a book right there... =o)
Thanks. Good night. I am too sleepy.