And .. quite frankly, I don't give a rip!
Every word you said I agree with. This is not the area to go after him on.
Besides, I know (and am related to) too many Catholics married to non-Catholics and such. Not all have their marriages blessed in the Church. In fact my co-brownie leader from last year, who is Catholic, just told me last week that on their 20th wedding anniversary she and her husband are finally going to receive the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony. She certainly has participated in the other Sacraments during all of those years.