"The Ultimate Guide to Handling Your Teen-age Daughter's Boyfriends" by Al Bundy
Posted on 04/01/2004 2:24:45 AM PST by goldstategop
"The Ultimate Guide to Handling Your Teen-age Daughter's Boyfriends" by Al Bundy
Perhaps all dads think their daughters are drop-dead gorgeous. All I know is that I wished my daughter had braces and glasses and was about 50 lbs overweight - NOT A CHANCE.
However, she has no interest in boys who even tease her sexually (it's not flirting today it's very overt and gross) and she's 18. I think there have been two things that have protected her besides my involvement (which I will not call perfect). One is that she has been homeschooled so she has not had pressure to be sexually active since she was 6 years old. The other is that we don't watch TV. No Seinfeld, no Friends, no Frasier, nothing. She didn't get a continual message that normal people sleep with people they like. She got the message from her Mom and Me that her body is a gift, and it's best when given to one man for life.
Not everyone can make those two choices. We were blessed and are blessed with a beautiful, virgin, 18-year-old girl.
Shalom.
Terrific article.
You aren't imaginative enough if you think that would work.
We don't TV reception, either. The absence of school and TV eliminates so many potential problems. There's still the everyday stuff ... don't want to do the dishes, bickering with the brothers ... but the other day I was looking at some "teen issues" books in the Christian bookstore, and we just don't have any of those issues!
Your daughter sounds wonderful ... I hope she meets a worthy man, and you get a dozen or so grandchildren!
(Pictures on the Tax-chick page :-)
We went on vacation to FL a while ago and let the little one get by with more than we should have. After we returend home I was trying to administer some attitude correction, moving her into the proper position, when she said "I don't think this is a good idea"
Ever try to remain stern and discipline a child when you are biting your tongue so hard to keep from laughing? It's tough I tell you.
I have FIVE (soon to be SIX) daughters and you are absolutely right!
My words for my daughter's future boyfriends:
"I'm not afraid to go back to prison."
A very good friend of mine was asked by his daughter how she can make him proud. He responded "be a virgin on your wedding day". He was the proudest daddy at the wedding (and now the proud granpa!)
WHAT ABOUT BOYS!!!! They have to be promiscuous with SOMEONE! We girls will be forever responsible for being sluts where boys will boys. How about a father teaching his son not to sleep around?
introduce future suitors to your old friend the high gauge sawed off shotgun. I plan to start cleaning mine (I'll have to get one, mind you) by the front door when she turns 12.
If it was a boy then people who would wonder if he was gay.
My frosh year of high school, I showed up at a girl's house for the first time. She invited me over, and we were just going to hang out over there, with her parents home.
Dad opens the door with his Sheriff uniform on, and his service revolver out in his hand, with a rag he was using to clean it. It wasn't pointed at me, but I got the point anyway.
Virginity in a boy is just as important as virginity in a girl. (Unfortunately I have no sons yet to teach this to but I try to influence my nephews and those around me)
If it was a boy then people who would wonder if he was gay.
Not in my neck of the woods. Of course if he wears a lot of pink, fake eyelashes etc then we'd definitely question it, but if he was a normal kid who decided to keep himself pure for his future wife (as God commands) then he'd be seen as a great young man.
Of course I live in one of those backwater fly-over areas where morals are still respected and Christianity is seen as a good thing.
Not in my house.
The grandparents are in home daycare (their insistance, my wife was going to quit)
Grandpa is a man to be admired. If for whatever idiot reason I screw up, he'd be there.
Careful not to put so much on me. We stopped watching TV because we lived in an area with bad reception and I was to cheap to pay for TV. So we got used to living without it and stayed that way. Before then my wife and I were both TV junkies and had no desire to change that.
I can remember one day - about 5 years after we stopped watching - having a chance to catch a program that I had liked and realizing that it was just trash. Why did I watch that? Because I didn't know any better, apparently.
So it was G-d's grace, not anything impressive my wife and I did, that kept us out of one of the worst traps our culture has to offer.
BTW: If you don't watch TV you don't know what movies are coming out so you don't deal with that trash either.
Shalom.
I did and he doesn't. I can attribute that to the same reasons, though. No peer pressure from school and no trash on TV (no TV).
I taught my son that being a man meant two things. Don't go back on your word and never mistreat a woman.
Shalom.
My grandfather lived on his own till 2 months before he dies.
For two months he had someone from the family with him 24x7. My mother, my aunt, my brother, my sister, my cousins, myself, etc.
We have the "Sacket" brand of family.
Family ALWAYS comes first.
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