Precisely. I shorted my term in the reserves a bit, not because I didn't want to be there but because it was having a significant and adverse impact on my regular job. You can't let "one weekend a month" determine your entire career trajectory in the civilian world, otherwise you are no different than the Regular military other than by name.
IMNSHO, the Reserves should be treated more like the militia rather than the Regular Army. We'll maintain our skills in trade as well and as long as we can, but it is not our regular job. But if the shit hits the fan, we'll be there. The problem is that the military is currently a bit schizophrenic as to what the status of the Reserves actually is. The Reserves shouldn't be used every time the military needs a few extra soldiers, but only in times of dire emergency (think WW2). If they need people to live and act like Regulars, then they should grow the Regular military to accommodate that need.
The problem, ultimately, is that the Reserves are used as Regulars, to the ultimate detriment to the soldiers who chose to do this as an adjunct to their civilian life. Being a Reserve is doing what you can with the time you have. It doesn't even pay enough to cover the expenses of showing up in many cases, so the people who do it at all are showing up with the best of intentions despite their civilian lives. It is a bad precedent for the military to treat them otherwise.