You're stretching a ton, and complaining that Gibson didn't make the film about Jesus you'd have made is the evidence of it.
There are crowds of Jews and individual Jews calling for His Crucifixion.
There are also crowds of Jews and individual Jews bewailing His fate.
Mel Gibson's own hands nailed Jesus to the Cross.
Jews who are looking for a reason to be offended here are being offended with no reason.
I understand that your wife is Jewish, and that you've seen the film with her, and it has upset her, but she is simply mistaken in reacting this way, and her reaction is unwarranted.