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Working full time, raising children ALONE, and trying to help them grow into productive adults is sure LAZY.

Then give ME the child. I'm a hypothetical, re-married father paying support to a single mother who has serial boyfriends, drinks too much, has a filthy house and has no aspirations of raising my child in a wholesome environment.

But the LAZY Father can't even share a little of his income to help.

This hypothetical LAZY Father would be glad to have the child. This LAZY Father is happy to pay support for the child but doesn't feel $1500 a month is what it really costs to raise a child; and the courts seem to take every last dollar of disposable income so the LAZY Father has nothing left to save for his retirement, or his other children's college education.

On the other hand, the mother has the burden (and privelege) or raising the child alone; the burden of paying for daycare; being a single mother is one of the most difficult human undertakings.

Maybe these are some one of the reasons God hates divorce.

The issue is so contentious, with liberal courts typically so punitive, PUNITIVE (not supportive) in their assessments of custody and support. It creates bitter and destructive animosity between parents, with the children getting caught up in it all.

"This hypothetical LAZY Father would be glad to have the child. This LAZY Father is happy to pay support for the child but doesn't feel $1500 a month is what it really costs to raise a child; and the courts seem to take every last dollar of disposable income so the LAZY Father has nothing left to save for his retirement, or his other children's college education."

I would give ANYTHING to have joint custody of my children.
I spend every available moment with them, and treasure it

My divorce attorney (a female) told me from the beginning:

Don't even think about it, you could pay me $500,000 to argue your case for joint custody of your children, but you will lose.

Shocked, I asked her why.

Her response was, "Honestly, it's because you are a man"

And I sat and cried in her office.