I think we are close to entropy here. Assuming a clear majority favored gay "marriage," what should we call it? I understand the emotion over the game "capture the term" for what the law calls it. Maybe the best strategy is to call marriage of the same sex, "legal partnerhship" with all the same legal ramifications of marriage. But I doubt that would satisfy the capture the term folks.
I don't know but it goes deeper than the word. It's where the secular meets the sacrament and the animus that the courts have wrought will tear apart friends and families.
It didn't have to be that way but that's the way it is.
I sense you are becoming a bit agitated. :-} My position is unchangeable and I reckon yours is as well. No problem.