I've learned because I won't dress in a provactive manner that I'll have to make sure I have other qualities/things that a man wants. Men are very visual and as much as we women hate that, it's a proven fact :-)
My four year old grand daughter has more innate feminity than most more mature women 15 to 20 years her senior. How? It is not based on make-up or sex, she is just a girl. She swirls her skirts, has a gigawatt smile, and tremendous dark eyes--and knows how to express herself with a glance. Why? She hasn't had to worry about what is "cool" yet, hasn't been programmed to be "sexy" by MTV or any other media outlet, she just acts naturally.
Reminds me of her grandma...:^)