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Our neighbors, two women, married in their church about 10 years ago. They are monogamous, as far as we all know, and they are proud of it. I think marriage, by it's very nature, increases monogamy in society and is therefore a good and healthy thing for these homosexuals.

I was friends with quite a few homosexual men and women. My best friend was a homosexual man (with AIDS). Neither he nor his friends were monogamous. My friend was in a relationship with a man who was quite a bit older. My friend used to complain all the time that he wasn't getting enough sex at home, so he went actively looking for it (I believe he was upfront about his AIDS status).

I had a girlfriend who was homosexual and unable to maintain a stable relationship. She used to jump into them and then jump out months later. I knew quite a few homosexual women through her and none of them were able to maintain long-term relationships.

BTW, both of my friends were sexually molested as children.

I agree that we should at least encourage monogamous and stable relationships among everyone, heterosexual and homosexual. Like it or not, there will always be gay people, and while you shouldn't be forced to accept or respect homosexuality, we should at least try to be respectful of people. To use an analogy: I hate black licorice. I resent the fact that because some 5-10% of the population likes black licorice, I have to hand-pick out licorice candies out of the box. But I'm not about to insist that black licorice be banned just because myself and the vast majority of people find it disgusting, and I'm not going to treat people like dirt if they do like it.

And to be perfectly frank and upfront, I've had numerous gay friends, all of them monogamous, and none with HIV or VD, as far as I know. My best friend throughout high school and college was FLAMINGLY gay-and more flaming and he would explode like a Spinal Tap drummer. But he was and still is even more conservative than I am (except on abortion). He's currently a pre-med student, and is always writing letters criticizing Canada's socialist health policy to newspapers. My MA advisor was a lesbian, and I remain in touch with both her and her partner. They're a truly lovely couple who have always accepted my politics, which are very different from theirs, and I've always been grateful for their enormous amount of help in getting me into a first-rate Ph.d program.