I was married 30 years, now divorced almost a year, and have a junior in high school. Now that I'm uncurled from the fetal position I was in when I learned my marriage was over, I am seeing a LOT of advantages to being single. I'm learning how to selfishlessly indulge myself (within the parameters of being a good mother). This is a new and fun thing for me after so many years of always putting myself second. While I have some sadness about the approaching empty nest, I'm also excited about the possibilities that are ahead of me. I'll never say never, but for now a new relationship is not even on my radar. I love my new independence.