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Here's the deal...When a woman cheats, she's longing for emotional closeness. When a man cheats, he's longing for physical closeness. When a woman gets to the point of cheating, it can be dangerous because that means she's bonded "emotionally" with that person enough to want to sleep with them. That is more difficult to get over. When men cheat, they may love their wives, but seek more physical pleasure outside the marriage. They don't have to bond with the one they are cheating on. So....the marriage can be reconciled when the man stops cheating but it rarely happens the other way around because the woman has already severed the emotional bond with the husband in order to open herself up emotionally to someone else.

In your case, the marriage was most likely in trouble even before she cheated. There was some emotional needs that weren't getting met that forced her to look outside the home. That is where you need to look at what mistakes you have made. Maybe if you realize some of the nurturing, caring, cherishing, adoring, emotional support that your wife might have needed that you failed to see can be turned around, she might give you another chance.

The fact is, no one can change anyone...but everyone can change themselves. If there is a transition in you, things might work out...But...she may be a woman who because of her bad childhood or lack of morals, your being who you are or changing won't help.

Say a prayer and hope for the best....

"Here's the deal...When a woman cheats, she's longing for emotional closeness. When a man cheats, he's longing for physical closeness. When a woman gets to the point of cheating, it can be dangerous because that means she's bonded "emotionally" with that person enough to want to sleep with them. That is more difficult to get over. When men cheat, they may love their wives, but seek more physical pleasure outside the marriage. They don't have to bond with the one they are cheating on. So....the marriage can be reconciled when the man stops cheating but it rarely happens the other way around because the woman has already severed the emotional bond with the husband in order to open herself up emotionally to someone else."

This is extremely one-dimensional and insulting to men.

When a woman cheats, she's longing for emotional closeness.

BS. I know women who cheat because they're selfish amoral adrenaline junkies who are never satisfied with anything and who are never happy unless they can put everyone's lives into maximum turmoil.

When men cheat, they may love their wives, but seek more physical pleasure outside the marriage.

I don't think it's possible to love someone while laughing at them, and I don't think it's possible to cheat on one's wife without laughing at them.

So....the marriage can be reconciled when the man stops cheating but it rarely happens

I stopped your sentence where it should have ended. You know. "Once you've been to that well", and all...

"The fact is, no one can change anyone...but everyone can change themselves. If there is a transition in you, things might work out...But...she may be a woman who because of her bad childhood or lack of morals, your being who you are or changing won't help"

Sheesh! Does nobody read the entire post any more. This was not about this guy's wife. Please go back and read the whole post.