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I don't know about THIS particular relationship Julie. It seems that these two people were on completely different wave lengths. From the testimony of Laci's family, I get the impression that she really didn't KNOW the guy she was married to. Laci, by all account, was happy. Also, both her Mom and her girlfriends said she was strong willed and that she wasn't the type to allow herself to be abused. I really believe Snotty was able to function with his double life because of his employment (travelling salesman). You can hide a lot of activities while "travelling"!! Appears it was the "perfect" job for him. Also it appears to me that Scott was maladaptive in ALL his relationships!! He's sick imo.

"Also, both her Mom and her girlfriends said she was strong willed and that she wasn't the type to allow herself to be abused."

You could be right in your assessment of the situation. I tend to think that she did have some idea of what was going on - she might not have known about Amber but I bet she knew about past affairs, reckless spending and neglect (e.g., not attending her shower). All of this is abuse and, for some reason, she tolerated it. I honestly don't mean to disparage her Lynn - my heart breaks everytime I see her picture. I've just worked with so many women who are in these situations who believe that as long as their husbands aren't hitting them they aren't being abused. Did this guy have a double life? You bet. Did everyone around him know the extent of this double life? No - but I bet alot of people (Laci included) saw the tip of the iceberg from time to time. JMO :-)

"Also it appears to me that Scott was maladaptive in ALL his relationships!! He's sick imo."

I think the interesting question is...if he was married to a different kind of person would he have murdered? Would there have been a different outcome? I'm not arguing that he doesn't have issues! (I wouldn't get very far with that kind of argument! LOL)