I see a stalemate that is continuing despite the fact that it is getting old. I don't have any great ideas for breaking the stalemate either. I wish they would both reconsider and either accept the stalemate or have one back down, but I don't think that is going to happen, either. I think it's a problem of longevity. I know there are certain posters that, when they appear on a thread, elicit a *groan* on my part and a "here we go again...". We have such a long history that it's impossible to ignore prior "conversations" (in some cases, more like altercations). I don't have the answer, but I admire your efforts at making a difference. Good luck...
No question, that histories between people are complicating things. I am asking for a very difficult thing- for people to bury the hatchet without any guarantee the other guy is going to do the same.
It isn't shocking me that many are skeptical of doing so, although I do wish more would give it a try.