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Perhaps she is seeing it as "he had to stop at the store for eggs and bread anyway and the flowers were an afterthought." It's still nice, don't get me wrong! Personally, I wouldn't say a word about it. But taking the time and the forethought to stop during the day, and thinking about her, going to a flower shop and having flowers sent might make her feel more special.

If a woman likes flowers and a man can overlook how usless a gift it is then she should not bitch about the source.

Knowing what a friend or spouse likes means so much more.

For Christmas I received a spent tank shell casing, a coffee cup shaped like a shotgun shell (with a live 12 gauge round inside), a paper towel holder made out of three real horse shoes, some tubing and a center hold down piece with my initials on it all welded together and skillfully painted. From the wife and kids I received various types of ammo.

These people really know and care about me. I don't care about the cost or source; I care because they all fit me to a tee!!!!

My most recent closer girl friend in Taiwan . . . I'd get her (American, caucasian) some greeting cards--that I'd carefully picked out because they said what I wanted to say to her--but which could also be used to give to other people she liked.

Sometimes I'd put a note in on a 3X5 card.

I felt that she benefitted when she received them AND when she gave them onward.

She actually agreed. But, she was often enough rather miffed or disappointed that I didn't write more, more often.

I was usually at a loss because we talked and prayed on the phone together nightly in addition to several face to face contacts in the week--and I really stayed current in all the positive things I'd say to her.

Ah, well. Live and learn.

Now I have 30-40 new, unused greeting cards to send her and am intent on slipping personal notes inside each one on 3 X 5 cards. And they've sat here for weeks while I try to get that task together. I wonder how many month's they'll be here.

Maybe I can do a few a week.

These people really know and care about me.

I know what you mean, and I feel the same way. My husband bought me ear muffs for X-mas (and some other inexpensive items, books and jammies)! I had made an off hand comment one day that when it's windy, my hair is blown away from my ears and my ears get really cold. And the band will lie flat underneath my hair so I don't look like a 4 year old. LOL! It was sweet that he remembered what I said.

When my ears are all toasty, I'll think about what a nice husband I have.