[Poohbah]

Besides the fact it gave me the impetus to finally get off of cocaine, which in itself is an amazing gift and wonderful miracle, it also taught me that I want a woman who is G-d fearing.

The former is the one thing you've said that's actually shocked me.

The latter...well, I met my wife at a prayer meeting. We are of the same faith. That is critically important for staying together--the time we spend together in worshipping G-d is what gives us strength for the journey.

[cjshapi]

Perhaps it's not so shocking for someone to admit past mistakes when he has learned from them. I think it takes a fair amount of courage to publicly make an admission such as this, but it may be part of recovery.

As for your latter comment I cannot imagine being involved with anyone who does not have a strong sense of faith and God. I tried it once and learned that I won't go there again.

[Lazamataz]

The former is the one thing you've said that's actually shocked me.

Oh yes. I was a cocaine addict for the longest time. Actually, to be fair, I still am a cocaine addict. I'm not an active addict any more, thanks to G-d, Narcotics Anonymous and my Sponsor.

Addicts lie. It's what we do, in order to use. Only a small portion of recovery involves getting off drugs. The most major parts of recovery comes later -- becoming the good, responsible, and trustworthy person most people want to be.

I've heard it said people can say bad things about me. But they cannot say anything I myself have not said about myself on this very forum. Revealing your faults makes them powerless against you.

My past is mine to discuss, and always shall be.

The latter...well, I met my wife at a prayer meeting. We are of the same faith. That is critically important for staying together--the time we spend together in worshipping G-d is what gives us strength for the journey.

That is something I have learned. Faith in G-d gets a couple through the tougher times, and they emerge strengthed. Of course, it is necessary that both partners wish to address the components that cause the problem. I am happy that I have finally and seriously addressed a few of my problems, and will address more of them as time unfolds. Eventually, I believe I will be a fine, loyal, forgiving and trusting husband. That is one of my life goals.

Thanks for your words, Poohbah. You are one of the good ones.