[sauropod]

I think what you are recommending is cruel.

[Quix]

Cruel?

On the contrary. Helping a couple move to intense shared physical, sexual intercourse

when it's been totally or mostly absent and certainly absent in terms of shared PLEASURE for many months, maybe years--is HARDLY cruel.

It helps greatly to increase the PLEASURE OF BOTH and to set up a situation in which playfulness is likely to erupt. It sets up a situation in which the pressure is NOT on sexual performance with the accompanying ego risks and fears--but the focus is on abandoning selfishness toward PLEASURING their partner selflessly. That, too, is all to the good in cultivating what is required for good sex.

There is another key aspect which I'll FREEPMAIL you though it would likely blunt the effectiveness were you to need the methodology.