[SauronOfMordor]

More likely they want to be understood by their intentions rather than their actions.

Best advice I ever got: ignore what they say -- watch what they do. A person's actions are a much more positive indicator of their true feelings than words are. Somebody who goes on about how much they love you, but can't be bothered to make an effort to make you happy, is lying

[bootless]

Actions versus what they say.

Absolutely. Talk is cheap. Willful actions are the truth of the heart.