If the guy is decent at heart, he will. Sure, he can be decent, but can just suck up all the attention, affection, affirmation and still be emotionally lazy, because of "momma" issues. My only point is that Dr. Laura is being a bit disingenous to make such a blanket statement that men don't need a book. I love men, and believe me, they need a book, too.
We all need a book, a mentor, a friend who'll tell us the truth.
James Dobson has a book out for men. I forget the title. . . let me see if I can find it.
What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women
by: James C. Dobson
November, 1988
Amazon.com's Price: $5.99
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I think he's updated it since 1988.
I hope to post something else in the midst of these issues before the day is out . . .
FOLLOWING ae some books I'd recommend in the middles of these issues or at least related significantly to these issues.
I like James Dobson because I've met him and find him to be authentic if a bit . . . perfectionistic in some contexts. I think he's mellowed over time and I believe his writings are among the best on the subjects of family and marriage as well as male/female relationships.
He's at least real and candid. But, he speaks from a lot of personal experience and tons of counseling experience.
Blessings,
IN addition to
ATTACHMENT . . . by Tim Clinton and Gary Sibcy
and
WHAT WIVES WISH THEIR HUSBANDS KNEW ABOUT WOMEN, others of value by James Dobson [Some seem to be available in Spanish and a few in Chinese and German] are:
Straight Talk: What Men Need to Know, What Women Should Understand
by: James C. Dobson
July, 1991
Love For a Lifetime : Building a Marriage that Will Go the Distance
by: Dr. James Dobson
March, 2000
For Couples in Love
by: James Dobson
June, 2002
Love Must Be Tough : New Hope for Marriages in Crisis
by: Dr. James Dobson
January, 2004
Seven Promises Of A Promise Keeper
by: Jack Hayford, Gary Smalley, Charles R. Swindoll, Max Lucado, Crawford Loritts, Isaac Canales, Howard G. Hendricks, Bill Bright, James Dobson, Luis Palau
22 July, 1999
Straight Talk To Men
by: James Dobson
06 June, 2000
Night Light: Devotional Thoughts for Couples
by: James, Dr Dobson, Shirley Dobson, James C. Dobson
April, 1902
Love for a Lifetime: Building a Marriage That Will Go the Distance
by: James Dr Dobson
Romantic Love: Using Your Head in Matters of the Heart
by: James C. Dobson, Gospel Light Publications
May, 1997
Romantic Love: How to Be Head Over Heels and Still Land on Your Feet
by: James Dobson
January, 2004
Prayers for a Lifetime : A Couples Guide to Intimacy with God and Each Other
by: Dr. James Dobson
August, 2004
Straight Talk to Men : Timeless Principles for Leading Your Family
by: Dr. James Dobson
January, 2004
Marriage at Its Best
by: Dr. James Dobson
July, 1990
Dr. James Dobson on States of a Woman's Life
by: James, Dr. Dobson, Jean Lush
February, 1994
The Feminine Factor: The Effects of Premenstrual Tension and Hormone Imbalance
by: James Dobson
April, 1985
Men in Mid Life Crisis
by: James Dobson
April, 1985
How to Reconcile a Marriage/Audio Cassette
by: James C. Dobson
December, 1987
Life On The Edge Trusting God When Life Goes Wrong
by: James Dobson
08 January, 2001
Prescription for a Tired Homemaker
by: James Dodson, Pale, James C. Dobson
August, 1982
THEY SHOULD all be available at his website . . . let me see if I can get the link . . .
http://family.org/ Relatively few men read books.
Men need stories. Construct a story as a parable illustrating your message. Insure that the story is cast with factors, components which are central to his world and priorities. Insure the story is believable whether fiction or not.
IF THE STORY IS CONSTRUCTED WELL ENOUGH--he will have no defense against it.
Jesus talked almost exclusively in stories. Actually, men's brains seem to be constructed to take in, understand, comprehend, integrate, relate to, use stories much better than any other form of communication.
When men get together, they swap stories--war stories, job stories, sports stories (brave ones or brash ones or phoney ones--even sex stories).
Women share feelings. Men share stories.
Talk to men in stories. Works much better.
ALSO--AVOID CLOSING THE CIRCLE FULLY. Leave part of the circle open so it will niggle at the man and he will have to at least unconsciously ponder it more and longer. If you tidy everything up, it's easier for him to dismiss. Leave part of it for him to discover and conclude with his own AHHH HAH INSIGHT from his pondering of your story.