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But as it is important for women to understand how men are different, they must, in turn, understand that we are emotional creatures. It is the basis for what makes us truly feminine.

I would be most interested in hearing how "emotional creature" is defined. It seems to me a catch-all phrase used to introduce superfluous information for the purpose of directing negotiations toward a predetermined goal.

Well, I can only speak for myself. Most people who know me wouldn't guess that someone so strong can be so emotional. Many view 'emotional' as a bad thing. But it really isn't. Emotions are the basis for compassion, nurturing, loving, and feeling. It's why we mostly turn to our mothers in times of comfort. Honestly, how many men out there look for spouses who share traits with their moms? That's not saying a man can't have some or all of those qualities too. I happen to think President Bush does this quite nicely.

Now on the other hand, I know of lots of women who sometimes feel, 'If I'm not horny, fix me a sandwich'. ;) Not sure if that answers your question.

A much larger percentage of a woman's brain is devoted to nuance, subtlty in verbal and nonverbal communication; emotional expression, perception and interpretation etc.

Emotions are a major portion of a woman's being, language, perceptions and constructions of the world, of reality.

Men get wound up over sports, sex, achievement/work/conquest. Men are more frightened of emotions than anything because one can't slice, dice, examine emotions anywhere near how one can examine, slice, measure, construct with a piece of wood, for example.

Emotions can't be controlled and by definition, if it can't be controlled, measured, packaged, analyized, then men are more likely to be at least wary of it, if not terrified of it whether consciouisly or unconsciously.

However, MEN ARE EMTIONAL creatures, too. But very differently so and in a variety of different ways and levels.

They are exceedingly tender and vulnerable in terms of their egos--especially in terms of their masculinity, potency, virility etc. They can hide it--some very well--under tons of bluster, bravado, toughness etc. And a wife may never know how deep her off hand phrase stabbed the knife to the heart--but it did. And many men have a hard time putting such minor things behind them and going back for more--with still again--a vulnerable heart tender toward their spouse.