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How did you turn that friendship into romance? I have realized that I am falling in love with a girl friend. I have liked her pretty much from the start, but when I think of what love is, I know that now I am falling in love with her and it drives me crazy. She has said in the past that she sees something possibly happening working between us because she realizes how amazingly alike we are and all, but at that time anyway, she wanted to just grow a deeper friendship and not bring up hopes for anything more. I am 20, almost 21, and never had a gf or anything, but this person is simply incredible and I am thinking about telling her how I feel on Valentine's Day, as this is no infatuation anymore. Luckily, she has said in the past she really respects my honesty, and based on our history, I know that telling her isn't going to screw the friendship up. We became friends after a date for crying out loud....:) And, she is the type of girl who is still very old-fashioned...I will have to make all the moves if something is to happen. Anyway...this just has been on my mind a lot lately and am just curious how your relationship grew.

How did you turn that friendship into romance?

To be perfectly honest, I have absolutely no idea. Your story tells me you are both mature for your age, and growing the friendship is a great idea. If you are confident enough that your friendship will not be harmed by telling her your feelings, I say go for it.

I met my husband accidently, he had grown up with several friends of mine and just recently returned to the area, and joined a bunch of us that had gone out for happy hour one Saturday night. My friends were taking me out because I had just that day moved into a new apartment after having left my husband a month earlier.

So technically I was still married when we met, and we just got to be friends. He actually became my knight in shining armor helping me extricate myself from one of the guys who got the idea that I was "with him" and I wasn't.

We got engaged 3 years later but for various and sundry reasons postponed the wedding date numerous times. So while we are coming up on 16 years since we've met we'll only be celebrating our 7th wedding anniversary in February.

You're still young, and I assume your lady friend is as well, I can only suggest you do not rush into anything. By all means tell her how you feel on Valentine's Day. Good luck to you. and happy New Year.