With all the dysfunctional families in the world, their kids on drugs and committing violent crime and leaving a trail of welfare babies in their wake -- THESE are the people you pick on?
Historically, many generations would live in the same house. It was only a couple generations ago that we abandoned that notion. Then one generation later, we abandoned the notion that husband and wife should live in the same house. And now we've abandoned the notion that men and women should even marry.
Don't always assume that what you grew up with is 'the traditional way' -- let alone the 'right way.' There's plenty of objective evidence that it isn't either.
I would hardly call a 30 something man still living at home with mom making his lunch a functional situation.
Granted, better than a son with a heroin addiction but there is alot of grey area to work with there.